Things To Talk About Before Having A Baby

Cute Baby Quotes

These sweet baby quotes are sure to tug on some heartstrings. Each one could work as an excellent baby-on-the-way quote and for keepsakes and photo books that will be cherished for years to come.

  • “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” —Elizabeth Stone
  • “There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings.” —Hodding Carter Jr.
  • “Like stars are to the sky, so are the children to our world. They deserve to shine!” —Chinonye J. Chidolue
  • For all the things my hands have held the best by far is you.
  • “Having a baby is like falling in love again, both with your husband and your child.” —Tina Brown
  • “There are no words that can describe the euphoria you feel when your baby recognizes you for the first time and smiles.” —Jared Padalecki
  • “What good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is usually best after all.” —Benjamin Spock
  • “It’s a good thing babies don’t give you a lot of time to think. You fall in love with them and when you realize how much they love you back, life is very simple.” —Anita Diamant
  • “Children have neither past nor future. They enjoy the present, which very few of us do.” —Jean De La Bruyere
  • “I think that I see something deeper, more infinite, more eternal than the ocean in the expression of the eyes of a little baby when it wakes in the morning and coos or laughs because it sees the sun shining on its cradle.” —Vincent Van Gogh
  • It is a moment of pure ecstasy and satisfaction when you see a smile flicker on baby’s lips, just as they gently pass into a deep slumber.
  • “All those cliches, those things you hear about having a baby and motherhood—all of them are true. And all of them are the most beautiful things you will ever experience.” —Penelope Cruz
  • “And I learned what is obvious to a child. That life is simply a collection of little lives, each lived one day at a time. That each day should be spent finding beauty in flowers and poetry and talking to animals. That a day spent with dreaming and sunsets and refreshing breezes cannot be bettered.” —Nicholas Sparks
  • “You know what the great thing about babies is? They are like little bundles of hope. Like the future in a basket.” —Lish McBride
  • “Babies control and bring up their families as much as they are controlled by them; in fact, the family brings up baby by being brought up by him.” —Erik H. Erikson
  • “I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.” —Eleanor Roosevelt
  • “Loving a baby is a circular business, a kind of feedback loop. The more you give the more you get and the more you get the more you feel like giving.” —Penelope Leach
  • “This is a place where grandmothers hold babies on their laps under the stars and whisper in their ears that the lights in the sky are holes in the floor of heaven.” —Rick Bragg
  • I loved you from the very start. You stole my breath, embraced my heart. Our life together has just begun. You’re part of me, my little one.
  • “Having my baby fall asleep in my arms takes away all of my worries and stresses. A sense of complete and total peace comes over me.” —Maria Jose Ovalle

5. Everyone will have advice for you, mostly unwarranted

From the family, to your neighbor, to your friends without kids, to random strangers you encounter when your child is in the midst of a crying fit, everyone will have an opinion on parenting your baby and offer advice and suggestions. You will feel like you are not good enough. Trust me you are. As a new parent, you experience this enormous desire to get everything right! So it’s natural to be worried and question what you are doing. But learn to listen to your parental instincts, find your own parenting philosophy, and not get too influenced by everyone’s advice. Also, if you are open enough, you will learn not to judge another parent’s choices.

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12. Wipes

Keep bags of wipes in several locations, from your changing station to the diaper bag to your car. Like diapers, avoid stocking up on one particular brand just yet, until you know your baby isn’t sensitive to it.

Many hospitals send patients home with samples of wipes, or you can simply get different brands from the store and see which ones you like.

Or, like diapers, you can save money on wipes (and cut down on trash) by buying reusable ones!

8. Sleep sack

As functional as baby blankets may be, one thing you can’t use them for is to help the baby sleep. Instead, use a sleep sack to keep him warm and safe as he sleeps. (Take a look at these guidelines of what your baby should wear at night.)

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It is okay to not love every minute of having a new baby

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Don’t feel guilty if you’re not in a constant state of love and bliss when you have a new baby. Even when you first meet your new child, don’t put expectations on how you should feel. 

Moreland told me, “Some moms have that immediate, overwhelming, love-at-first-sight feeling with their newborns; others don’t. And that’s okay. Honestly, I was scared as hell and I was severely drugged from the surgery, so I didn’t feel overcome with love initially, but it grew and quickly deepened thereafter. Don’t feel like a bad mom if your initial experience is more like mine was.”

Clancy agreed. She told me, “Many parents that I work with wish that someone had told them that it is okay to not love every minute of having a new baby. It is a lot of hard work, and it doesn’t make you a bad parent. After baby comes, and parents see that not every minute is enjoyable, or they don’t fall in love with their baby immediately, they tend to feel very guilty about feeling that way. Then they don’t talk about it, and sit with that, thinking they are the only one who feels this way. Know that you are not the only one feeling this way, and you are still a good parent.”

11. Plan your finances

Having a baby is an expensive proposition. Parents from previous generations set aside money for college and maybe weddings, but many parents today need to think of childcare too. Childcare is expensive so factor it in before you have the baby. These days, childcare expenses are among the largest part of a family budget. This is understandable, as childcare costs have often been said to be at par or higher than college expenses.

Things To Consider Before Having A Baby

Even though you have some tough and complex decision to make there are some other things to consider before having a baby that isn’t as demanding but still need to be mentioned.

1. Delivery Options

This is one of the more important things to consider before having a baby.

Be sure to plan how you intend on delivering the baby.

Whether that’s a home birth, a hospital birth, pool birth or something that’s a mixture all 3, it’s important you set aside a plan for your ideal labour.

It’s unusual that it will go exactly to plan, but deciding on your ideal setup and working progressively towards that will free up your mental space closer to the time. (don’t’ forget about planning for effective pain relief as well)

2. Feeding & Health Options

Are you planning on bringing your baby up with a strict dieting plan?

If you are then be sure to research into what babies and toddlers can and can’t eat.

Also, make sure you are able to cut out certain things from your diet to facilitate it.

If you are planning on having a vegan diet for your baby be prepared to explain why you eat meat and why they can’t.

3. Co-sleeping

This is an often overlooked area of things to consider before having a baby.

If you intend to have new baby sleep in a cot, then to a crib and then eventually transition to their own to toddler bed that that’s fine.

But be prepared to investigate the pro’s and cons of co-sleeping.

There is a lot of evidence, both scientific and anecdotal that suggest one may outweigh the other.

Ultimately the decision is up to you, but don’t rule it out until you know the reasons for and against each one.

4. Being a couple again

When thinking about things to consider before having a baby most couples don’t even think to talk about this.

As baby comes they will eventually go into toddler stage and transition through childhood and teenage years faster then you think.

Ask any parent with a teenager and they’ll remind you that the baby years flew by! (although it might not always seem like that when you’re going through it)

Amongst all the possibilities make sure you have a discussion on being a couple again.

Whether that means staying at home when the children moving out or selling up and living on a tropical island, it’s all very important to talk about so you both are on the similar pages.  

5. Sleepless nights & crying babies  

One of the most important things to consider before having a baby is preparing for those sleepless nights.

No matter what way you look at it a new baby will cry and they will have to adapt to their parents sleeping patterns naturally.

This can take a long time.

For most parents this is the biggest stress they will face in the early years of childhood and can make or break a couple.

No matter how much advice you get from others learning to sleep on less then 5 hours sleep a night and waking up every 2 hours to feed, change and put the baby back to sleep is hard.

On top of that, your baby will cry and scream for your attention at different intervals throughout the day.

It’s a full-time job and you have to be prepared for sleepless nights and crying babies!

Short Baby Quotes

Need a shorter quote for a gift tag or for a personalized gift like a sweet teddy bear for the little one? These short baby quotes and sayings range from nostalgic and emotional to playful and silly. Consider adding these short quotes into a personalized calendar filled with adorable photos of your little one.

  • “A baby is God’s opinion that the world should go on.” —Carl Sandburg
  • Your first breath took ours away.
  • “Flowers are words which even a baby can understand.” —Arthur C. Coxe
  • “It was the tiniest thing I ever decided to put my whole life into.” —Terri Guillemets
  • Fairy tales do come true. Look at us, we had you.
  • A baby’s smile is an antidote to melt your day’s stress away.
  • “A baby is born with a need to be loved—and never outgrows it.” —Frank A. Clark
  • Something tells me I am going to love him forever.
  • Happiness is homemade.
  • “Children make you want to start life over.” —Muhammad Ali
  • Babies are bits of stardust, blown from the hand of God.
  • “A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.” —Victor Hugo
  • “A happy baby has shining eyes. It walks open-hearted into the world and spreads magic.” —Sigrid Leo
  • Sometimes, the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.
  • While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.
  • Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.
  • “A new baby is like the beginning of all things-wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities.” —Eda J. Le Shan
  • Babies smile in their sleep because they’re listening to the whispering of angels.
  • Ten little fingers, ten perfect toes, fill our hearts with love that overflows.
  • “Children bring us a piece of heaven on earth.” —Roland Leonhardt

Tips

  • Take as much time as you need to decide if you are ready to start a family. Do not put pressure on yourself to make a decision by a certain deadline.

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You will find normal again

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While you may feel like you’ll never get back to a normal life again, you will. Wagner told me, “It will be a new normal, but there will come a day when everything feels right again.” She did mention, however, that it may not happen quickly. 

“The first year, especially the first four months, are a bit crazy. You’re recovering from pregnancy and childbirth, your life has been turned totally upside down, and you’re responsible for things you don’t even really know how to do yet,” she said. “But there will come a day when you feel capable and in control again. Even though it looks and feels nothing like your pre-baby life, you’ll look around and feel at home in your new life.”

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