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- Stop worrying if people would tell you to shut up
- 9. Never forget another name
- 4. Send Pictures To Cheer Someone Up
- 17. Avoid being a pretentious one-upper
- Is Trying to Get Back Together Really That Hopeless?
- Positive and Negative Effects of Procrastination at Work
- The 7 annoying types of people who wont shut up
- Type #1: People who are too big for their britches
- Type #2: Snobs who look down their noses at everyone
- Type #3: Cold fish
- Type #4: Anyone who talks the talk but can’t walk the walk
- Type #5: People who beat around the bush
- Type #6: Morons talking out of the wrong end
- Type #7: Long-winded gasbags
- 2. Tell Jokes To Cheer Someone Up
- Reader Success Stories
Stop worrying if people would tell you to shut up
When you’re worried about other people telling you to STFU, several bad things happen when trying to gain social media stature:
- You only speak when you’re totally sure of yourself.
- You carefully measure how everyone will react.
- You make sure nothing you say will cause anyone to think less of you.
You think this is smart. And to a certain extent, it is. If you want to get through life without anyone disliking you, then buttoning your bottom lip, keeping your eyes to yourself, and getting on with your business is the perfect strategy. Just like you can learn how to write like Hemingway, you can master how to speak like Hemingway.
But no one tells you that it’s also a good way to spend your life in fear.
You can never say what you really think for fear that someone will disagree. You can never tell other people what they really need to know for fear that you’ll ruin your relationship with them. You’ll never get around to writing the book or blog you’ve been planning for fear that no one but you will think it’s important.
Sure, everyone who knows you will like you, but not many will know you. You’ll lose all the qualities of a good writer. The fear of “shut the f*ck up” will have driven you into mediocrity. It’ll crush any chance you ever had at greatness.
Of course, what choice do you have? No, you don’t want to be a timid, mediocre writer, but you don’t want to be one of those people who doesn’t know when to shut their mouth either.
9. Never forget another name
Always, always, ALWAYS pay attention when the other person introduces their name. Obviously, most people take their name very personally. So remembering someone’s name correctly will no doubt leave them with a good impression of you.Advertising
Dale Carnegie famously said that a person’s name, to that person, is the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Think of how you feel when someone remembers your name towards the end of a conversation. Feels pretty good, doesn’t it?
4. Send Pictures To Cheer Someone Up
Pictures and images, whether funny or sentimental, have a unique way of cheering us up. If you’re looking for specific pictures to cheer someone up, consider the following ideas:
- Throwback Photo: Have you known this person for a long time? If so, you probably have plenty of old photos of the two of you. Send one of them to the person you want to cheer up with a kind message to brighten their day.
- Funny Meme: Find a relevant and funny meme online or make one yourself and send it over to your friend. If you get a laugh out of them, you know you’ve done your job cheering them up.
- Reminds Me of You: Did you see something that reminds you of that person? Snap a picture and send it along with the message “Thinking of you,” to show you care.
- Physical Photo: Find a special photo of the two of you and print it out to give them. Having a physical copy of the good times is sure to help cheer them up. Don’t forget to frame the photo to make it extra special.
17. Avoid being a pretentious one-upper
I once worked with someone who always had to one-up whatever you say.Advertising
He always wanted to have a bigger and better story to tell than everyone else. Talking to him gets annoying really quickly. Don’t be that guy.
Is Trying to Get Back Together Really That Hopeless?
I often get emails from people with their break up situation asking if it’s hopeless. Is there any chance they may end up back together?
Here’s the deal: if you get back together after one break up, it can work. But that’s assuming that one or both of you genuinely learns from the break up and alters the course of their behavior or their perception of the relationship. There are plenty of examples of couples who needed some time apart to gain perspective on the relationship and learn how to make it work. And generally, only one catastrophic break up isn’t too much to heal.
But if you’re going through break up after break up after break up — or what I sometimes refer to as the “emotional boom/bust cycle” — where you’re either in bliss or in hell, depending on which month it is, then I hate to say it, but you should probably just end it permanently.
Imagine your relationship as a beautiful china plate. If you break it once, you can put it back together with some care and effort. If you break it a second time, you can still put it back together but it takes a lot of extra time and care. But if you break it again and again and again, eventually you end up with so many pieces that you can’t put it back together. And no matter how much you liked that plate, you’re better off going and finding another one.
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The 7 annoying types of people who wont shut up
These mistakes are so common, in fact, that they’ve all been turned into clichés.
I’ve never seen anyone collect them all in one place before, though, so just for your benefit, here are seven types of people who never shut up.
Type #1: People who are too big for their britches
The people I most often want to shut the f*ck up are what my mother would call “too big for their britches.” They’re trying to sound smarter than they really are, pretending to know more than they really do, or acting like their life is better than it really is. They come off as phony, and it rubs everyone the wrong way.
The truth: you can’t fake being an interesting person. If you find yourself feeling like you have to pretend, then the problem isn’t your writing. It’s you. Go spice up your life, and you’ll find it infinitely easier to write something other people want to read.
Type #2: Snobs who look down their noses at everyone
Of course, you can take it too far. Some people have done so much that they seem to look down their noses at everyone. For them, it’s not a matter of trying to impress anyone. They genuinely believe they are superior. They’re the Michael Jordan of their industry, and no one comes anywhere close to matching their talent. What’s more, they make sure everyone else knows it.
Every once in a while, I see beginning bloggers dipping into this mode. Usually, it’s a successful person that’s starting a blog, and they believe their achievements entitle them to continued attention. Big mistake.
No one is entitled to attention, not even celebrities. If it became obvious that they were looking down their noses at everyone, they’d lose huge portions of their audience.
Type #3: Cold fish
For a medium that’s supposed to be about self-expression, most bloggers are surprisingly cold. Their writing reminds me of something I might’ve read in Biology 101. It sounds like they’re trying to impress the teacher with their knowledge, and they’ve forgotten that blogging isn’t writing an essay. It’s a conversational medium.
To be conversational, you can’t be cold. You have to be warm, edgy, and most importantly, FUN.
Type #4: Anyone who talks the talk but can’t walk the walk
You know those people who are always talking about what they’re going to do, and what they’re saying sounds really good, but they never actually get around to doing it? After a little while, you stop believing them. If they keep it up, you eventually stop listening altogether. No one has time for someone who talks a good game but doesn’t back it up with action.
The same goes for bloggers who focus too much on attention-grabbing techniques. All too often, I see folks talking about how they’re going to publish a free report, talking about how they’re going to write a book, talking about how they’re going to start a course, but they never get around to doing it.
Your readers might not care too much, but other bloggers watch this type of thing. Do it long enough, and you’ll lose their respect, which is disastrous when you’re trying to grow a blog.
Type #5: People who beat around the bush
Why do some people never shut up? Some residents of the Southern United States can be very sensitive about this one. To them, beating around the bush isn’t poor communication. It’s cultural heritage. You don’t just come out and say what you mean because, well, that’s “just not the way things are done ‘round here.”
I’m from the South, currently living in the South, and I love my Southern heritage, but beat around the bush for more than a couple of minutes, and I’ll ignore you with the politest of Southern smiles. I don’t have time for figuring out what everyone means, online or otherwise. Either get to the point, or STFU.
Type #6: Morons talking out of the wrong end
Ever know someone who makes stuff up, just to have something to talk about? It doesn’t matter if the story actually happened. It doesn’t matter if their opinion is based on any sort of proof. It doesn’t matter if everyone in the room knows they’re full of crap. As long as it’s interesting, they’re going to tell you about it, sure enough.
In short, they’re talking out of their ass.
When you’re a blogger, it’s easy to make the same mistake. You start out with lots of stuff to write about, but sooner or later, the well just kind of runs dry.
The problem is, your readers expect you to keep publishing on a regular basis, and that means finding something to write about and learning how to write articles fast. In a moment of desperation, you might be tempted to choose a topic you know is foolishness, just to keep your readers happy.
Big mistake. Online, people are even less tolerant of BS than they are in real life. If you want them to listen to you, you’d better either say something that has at least some foundation in reality, or say nothing at all.
Type #7: Long-winded gasbags
Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how interesting you are. Talk for too long and people will resent you for using up their time, even if they enjoyed listening to you.
They’ll also hesitate to connect with you in the future.
2. Tell Jokes To Cheer Someone Up
If the person you’re trying to cheer up has a good sense of humor, or if you’re just trying to brighten someone’s day after a small misstep, jokes can be just the right way to go. Check out the following one-liners when trying to figure out how to cheer someone up.
- “Q: What do you call a donkey with three legs. A: A wonkey donkey.”
- “I often feel bad for showing up to work late, but then I make up for it by always leaving early.”
- “Q: What do you call a nosy pepper? A: Jalapeño business.”
- “I asked a frog why he’s so happy, and he said it’s because he just eats whatever bugs him.”
- “Q: What do you call a guy with a rubber toe? Roberto.”
- “I am a nobody, nobody is perfect, therefore I am perfect.”
- “I wondered why the frisbee was getting bigger, and then it hit me.”
- “Did you hear about the crook who stole a calendar? He got twelve months.”
- “Q: What did the sea say to the sand? A: Nothing, he just gave a little wave.”
- “The world tongue-twister champion just got arrested. I hear they’re gonna give him a really tough sentence.”
- “Don’t you hate it when someone answers their own questions? I do.”
- “My email password has been hacked. That’s the third time I’ve had to rename the cat.”
- “Q: What did the big bucket say to the smaller one? A: Lookin’ a little pail there.”
- “Need cheering up? Start a fight with somebody when they have the hiccups!”
Reader Success Stories
J. J. Sep 19, 2018“Thank you for an instructive and non-judgmental article. Some of my coworkers display varying degrees of social consideration. I need to learn to put up and maintain better boundaries with them. I will be trying some of this advice.”…” more
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